I have trouble meeting women...

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I am a 24-year-old guy who struggles to meet women. I don't know too many people and have a small circle of mostly male friends, so there isn't anyone I can chat with about this. I have tried dating apps but have never managed to meet anyone there either, for almost a year. I don't know what else to do because I really want to start dating even if it doesn't lead to a relationship. What should I do? Is there something I should try that I haven't considered?
Think about what interests you and what kind of person you would like to spend time with, then use that information to broaden your social circle. Technology allows you to look for all kinds of groups and gatherings where people with shared interests meet. It's not easy trying to connect with people online but acknowledging that this may take time will help you approach this with a more realistic approach. Keep your mind open, don't shy away from opportunities to meet new people, and be friendly and outgoing as much as possible. Meeting someone may take time, but it will happen. Until it does, don't be too hard on yourself because this is something a lot of people are struggling with in cities around the world.

My ex-girlfriend has the potential to tear my life apart because of how much she controls my feelings. At the same time, I know I can't live without her. Should I try to win her back knowing this is a huge gamble?
You're aware of the risks which means you should also be prepared for any eventuality. You may not be able to control your feelings but try articulating what you like and dislike about this person because that may allow you to look at this situation a little more dispassionately. Trying again is fine, of course, but taking it slowly may also help you both navigate the challenge of this relationship a little better, so it isn't as difficult to manage.

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