'I don't want to be the only single guy in my class'
Almost everyone in my class at college is dating someone, which makes me feel very left out. I am not a very good looking person and I think I have an average personality, which makes it hard for me to compete with them on anything, but I think my self-confidence would be boosted enormously if I could find someone to go out with. I have tried asking a few girls from other classes out, but none of them have even agreed to go out for a cup of coffee. We have an annual prom coming up at the end of the year, and I will be devastated if I don't find someone to go out with, but nothing I do seems to work. Please help me.
I know this sounds easy to say, considering I am not in your shoes, but I will say it anyway: You don't need to judge yourself on the basis of parameters set by other people. This is very difficult advice to accept when you're in college, but I say it simply because I believe you aren't looking at the big picture. Yes, it's probably awful if you're the only one who's single in your class. Yes, prom is probably a big deal at this point in your life. Yes, it wouldn't hurt your self-confidence if someone were to go out with you, but you simply have to accept and reconcile yourself to the fact that your life is bigger than this. Part of growing up and becoming an adult is about accepting that things simply won't be the same for everyone. You have to have faith in yourself and believe that things won't always be the same. College doesn't define the rest of your life, even if it does seem like that for now. It's what you do, despite feeling left out and miserable, that matters more. If things aren't looking good now, focus on the future instead. It may surprise you.
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